Thanks for deciding to stick it out with SaleHoo :) What happened to you is quite unfortunate but you definitely have the right attitude! Good for you :)
Irene has given you pretty solid tips and like she said we would be delighted to help you in any way we can!
Another thing you have to do especially when you decide to deal with suppliers that you find outside our directory is to do a thorough background research, this way you avoid being scammed. If you need help with this aspect, just let us know.
You can also try doing a completed listings search on eBay to help you determine which products might be good to sell.
I would suggest you try to set aside time even on the weekends, seeing you have a full-time job, to do some sort of market research - for me this is the best way to determine what products will sell best. Remember, how receptive your market will be will depend on a number of factors like your location, the season (if you're selling seasonal products), the type of products if they are actually wanted by your market and how you are as a seller.
If you haven't taken advantage of our Research Lab, I suggest you do! It's a really easy and fast way to finding profitable niches - Link hidden: Login to view
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I'm sure you'll find the advice given by some of our more experienced members quite helpful.
Once you have decided on a product, let us know and we would love to help you search for suitable suppliers :)
All the best!